Wednesday, October 05, 2005

Theology Recap Tuesday (Only A Day Late)

Women And Authority In Marriage and The Church - Where Do You Stand?

A rather lengthy debate broke out in class on Monday night, and again people, I'm asking you to step up to the plate and state your position on yet another touchy subject. I'm going to touch on a few key issues within this one topic, so while I might seem to be jumping around, please bear with me: it all unites to create one major point in the end.

First and foremost, we look at Ephesians 5:22-32:

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

So in this context, what should a woman's role in marriage be? How should her husband treat her? If a marriage relationship were modeled after this passage of scripture, how do you think it would appear and function? Would there be a definite "dominance" of the man in the household, or would there be a sense of equal submission on both parts?

Next we look at Genesis 3:16:

16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

The debate here was three-fold: what does God mean when he says, "thy desire shall be to thy husband"? Does this mean that we will always be yearning for and chasing after the affections of our husbands because we are more emotional than they are? Or does it mean that we will always "aspire" to be equal to, or on the same level as them in the relationship, thus creating friction? It states rather clearly at the end of that verse, "and he shall rule over you", what the roles are, no? Also, the men were rather insistant upon the issue of Adam being "punished for Eve's wrongdoings". But that begs the question, why didn't Adam do anything to stop her? Would not then, he be equally as guilty for not having stepped in as Eve was for giving into temptation?

And lastly, where do you stand on the issue of women's role in the church? It states in 1Tim 2:11-12:

11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

So! Should we say that this scripture was merely "speaking to the times" and say that it's okay for a woman to assume the role of senior pastor of a church, knowing that she would have spiritual authority over men? Or, do we say, keep women out of that role of authority, but allow women to pastor children, youth, and other women? What do you think of women like Joyce Myers, etc...?

For more information on the issue of women and authority in the church, please visit The Broken Messenger: As I was formulating my thoughts for this post yesterday, I came across his site, and couldn't believe that he wrote about the exact issue that I was struggling with at that very moment. It's a great read, so please take the time to read it, and then, in true Katie fashion: please please please come back and comment!


25 Comments:

Blogger Katie said...

DEUDE - I am writing a post on women right now. HOW AMAZING IS THAT? Ok I have to finish mine before I read yours so that I don't get all messed up in the head.

I PROMISE I will be back shortly.

kukjm - Kuk Jam (at kamp)

10:50 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

Ok Stephanie I'm back.

Great questions, great topic, hard to find answers.

I'll just share my thoughts on each question.

Marriage roles: God is very specific in His word. He is not a God of vagueness (He just doesn't always give us the answers when we want them). So God sets up the heirarchy of God - Man - Woman, with both under submission to God. He calls both to be in obedience to Him and to live under His authority equally. Then He in His great wisdom realizes that we (man and woman) need roles so he sets up the roles of men and women in marriage - The man is to lead, love, serve, and provide for (as Christ modeled in His actions for the church) and women are to submit to God's ordained leadership of man, as well as love, serve, and be a helpmate.

The fall and subsequent curse. I take this verse to say that woman will aspire to be equal to or even above man because of her sinful nature. I think you hit the nail on the head with the wording "their desire will be for their husband and (or BUT) he shall rule over them." That sets up a battle there of sin nature versus God's ordained creation. As to Adam being punished for Eve's wrongdoing both were at MAJOR fault (in fact it was Eve's actions of suplanting Adam's authority and him allowing her to do so that got them to the point of sin). Eve took of the fruit and BOTH ate. BOTH sinned. Blame resides in BOTH, and BOTH suffer from effects of the sin.

Women in church: This verse is very difficult for many people, especially women. I tend to look at what God tells us to do. Titus 2 is a great chapter on God's heart for women to disciple/teach women and men to disciple/teach men. My personal opinion is that a man is called by God to be the spiritual leader. This does not mean that God does not equip women in such a way. I love that Elizabeth Elliot says she will be happy to have men attend her conferences, to listen to the things that God has laid on her heart, but she will not supplant the role of a pastor in the pulpit at church service. God has given her that conviciton and I agree with it. My BSF group has two teaching leaders, a husband and wife, both are strong teachers and gifted by God, both teach to a co-ed group, but the wife is not teaching in the place of a man in church. Not sure if I even answered the question here but those are my thoughts.

There you go again Stephanie giving us something MAJOR to chew on. Sorry my comment was once again SUMO long.

12:09 PM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

No, don't appologize for SUMO (hehe love that word!) long posts. I'm appreciative of your enthusiasm to debate important issues! It's funny, just thought I'd throw this out there as a side note: Interesting how people cruise in and out (quite frequently) without speaking up when heavy topics like this get brought up... I just appreciate when people (like you) decide to contribute... keeps the motor running throughout the day! ;) At least we keep each other entertained! lol

Back to the topic at hand... I'm with you on all of it. I had a really lengthy discussion with my roommate last night: and it's amazing how simple these concepts are: but how twisted they become when people choose to pick apart the Bible here to accomodate thier own beliefs there. I mean, in some cases, you just absolutely have to, not to accomodate beliefs, but more to accomodate the time, but that's a whole different argument. You get what I mean though.

2:51 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

I'm with you girl. I love that you tackle the tough stuff, it shows how deep your wisdom and desire to know your Lord are. I admire that in you. Keep bringing the hard topics and I'll be here to talk them out.

3:01 PM  
Blogger steve said...

(I'm stayin out of this one)

;-)

3:41 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Hmmm, because you have a different take them Miss Stephanie and I do Steve? Really?

3:49 PM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Ooooooh now I get it lol

4:02 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

i know sometimes I open my mouth way too quickly. No harm no foul.

:)

4:10 PM  
Blogger steve said...

not at all. I answered that question on your site KT

4:18 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

I saw. Thanks. Good man.

:)

4:18 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

not so smart KT.

4:23 PM  
Blogger Luke said...

I pretty much agree with Katie on this, so I don't have a lot to add, other than to the second question of sin entering in through the woman. That's not a biblical concept. In Genesis 2:15 it says: "And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it."

God gave Adam a charge to keep the garden, just as men today are to keep our homes. If Adam would've been doing his job Satan shouldn't have even been able to get to Eve. Adam failed to keep Satan out of his home and thereby the process was started in which the woman was decieved. The woman was talked into believing a lie. The man however wasn't talked into believing a lie, he just was plain disobedient when he ate. He didn't even have satan there with tempting words. I think the responsibility definitely lies on the man. However, the woman also sinned as is evident by her disobedience and God's subsequent curse on her. As men we have a great responsibility to "keep" our homes from evil. What is in your home today that might allow evil to be let in?

Romans5:12
Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:

Romans 5:16-19
And not as it was by one that sinned, so is the gift: for the judgment was by one to condemnation, but the free gift is of many offences unto justification.
17
For if by one man's offence death reigned by one; much more they which receive abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness shall reign in life by one, Jesus Christ.)
18
Therefore as by the offence of one judgment came upon all men to condemnation; even so by the righteousness of one the free gift came upon all men unto justification of life.
19
For as by one man's disobedience many were made sinners, so by the obedience of one shall many be made righteous.

5:09 PM  
Blogger steve said...

(Luke!! dont ruin this for us!! BLAME EVE!!)

Luke is a good duede

6:05 PM  
Blogger Amstaff Mom said...

Hiya Steph, I must admit I read K-T's site and commented on it first. My two cents can be found over there.

6:06 PM  
Blogger Brad Huston said...

Stephanie,

Thank you for the kind words. As I peer carefully out of the bunker, let me just say, nice post and thoughts.

Brad

10:25 PM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Amstaff: How odd that we should choose to write about the same thing without consulting one another first!? lol

Luke: I still maintain: You are awesome. As a matter of fact, you get awesome-er by the second (yes, I just made up a word. I do this often: KNOWING that I'm making them up, but using them nonetheless to egaggerate my point. Little known fact about moi!) But to get back to the original point (an hour later) I thank you for your boldness and your insightfulness.

Steve: Ha. Ha. lol you're silly. By the way: can I ask, why the spelling, "duede"? Where does that come from?

Brad: You need not peer from your bunker. This is an open forum just like yours was. I appreciate any and all comments, agreeable or not so much. It gives me more insight and knowledge (which is what I crave CONSTANTLY), AND it keeps me on my toes (and others, like my inquisitive and intellectually-charged friend Katie :).

11:08 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Luke - great comments. I agree with you too, but didn't want to be the chick pointing the finger at the duede. I will say that Eve showed her hand at manipulation in that garden. It is funny how in that one instant you see one of the big problems between man and woman begin - woman manipulates and man falls for it and all hell breaks loose (that phrase fits here).

Stephanie - you are such a sweet encourager, your insight and wisdom keep me on my toes, good thing we can both dance (especially to NKOTB - had to get that reference in there)

9:04 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

hahahahaha Katie, I told Steve to take some vids during his visit, and I told him that I want one of you all blowing kisses to me: but then it just dawned on me: What about a Kanukuk (sp?) camp re-creation, but to a NKOTB tune? And ALL of you must dance! lol!!! I just got a mental image! hahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!

(p.s. thanks for the kind words ;)

9:25 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

OH MY WORD Stephanie. That would be Hilarious. I'm not sure if everyone else would be as excited as me to dig out the old NKOTB routine and bust a move.

9:40 AM  
Blogger The Poor Blogger said...

>>Eve took of the fruit and BOTH ate. BOTH sinned. Blame resides in BOTH, and BOTH suffer from effects of the sin.<<

In early Christianity, one of the roles of Mary was as the
"New Eve" in the same way that Christ was the "New Adam." Her obdience to God undid the disobedience of Eve and paved the way for the birth of Christ, by whom we could be saved.

9:41 AM  
Blogger Luke said...

Pauper Frater:

Interesting thought. I would be interested to see what scriptural backing you have for Mary's obedience undoing the disobedience to Eve?

10:01 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Awesome-er... and awesome-er... lol

10:04 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

Hmmm Pauper Frater I'm with Luke, I need some scriptural evidence of this. I'm not sure I'm agreeing with that line of thought.

10:11 AM  
Blogger Amstaff Mom said...

I agree with K-T and Luke. I believe that Mary was chosen because He knew of her obedience and her belief of the Savior to come. I don't believe that her "decision" had anything to do with the timing of our salvation. It was decided before time began, and only Christ can undo the sin of the world. Mary was blessed because she was chosen by God to be part of the God becoming man miracle, but I don't think she was able to "undo" the sin of Eve (thus the sin of mankind).

My two cents, at least. Hope it makes some sense at all.

11:33 AM  
Blogger Amstaff Mom said...

Oh, and on the women preacher/teacher subject. I think women should primarily teach women. Children are fine as well, youth I'm iffy on, just because they are older and I don't think women are ordained by God to teach men. I didn't make the rules, God did.

11:35 AM  

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